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Last week I wrote about how having your own end of life
planning in place being the greatest gift that you can leave
your family.
Here is another gift from a family
caregiver:
Dear Gary,
I am still
receiving your beautiful newsletter. Please keep up
all the hard work you and your staff are doing.
I
sat down with my husband and made our plans for our deaths,
both his and mine. There was no arguing with our 6
children. We had everything planned and on paper.
Wills were done, directives were completed. I did this
because I have seen so many families come apart after the
funeral. This way there was no question as to what
comes next, we planned for what comes next.
I did
this because my mother's funeral wasn't a disaster but it
was confusing. I was asked by my sister and our dad,
"What was mom's favorite religious song for her funeral?"
I was blown away. Here were 2 people, my dad who lived
with her over 50 years, and my sister who lived 4 miles away
from mom and dad. Yet neither had any idea of what
song she would want played. No one had ever sat down
and asked the serious questions in their lives.
I ask for those of you who have not done this - just do it.
Yes, it is difficult but it's more difficult when no one
knows what you want after your death.
My funeral is
now being paid for, by me. All funeral expenses and
all instructions for my funeral are on paper, notarized and
complete. I've even written out an addendum to my will
so that everything I have valued will go to the person I
have named.
Cheryl
Today's Caregiver Family Checklist:
Gary Barg
Editor-in-Chief
gary@caregiver.com
