Scenarios You May Be Facing

Q: My parents are refusing to talk. Should I drop it?
A: It’s common for people to resist all this talking. Let them know that’s okay, you understand. But also let them know that you do want to address these issues, that it’s important. Letting them steer this, asking them to talk about their concerns, will help. Be gentle, but persistent. But no, don’t drop it. Believe it or not, most people do eventually open up, at least to some extent, and are relieved when they do. If they really won’t talk, no matter how you try, then talk with other family members and do the best you can to plan.

Q: My brothers and sisters and I don’t agree on how to handle the situation. How do we begin to figure it out?
A: Of course, your parent should be making the decisions. But if he or she is no longer able, then get a professional to settle any debates about your parent’s health, legal situation or finances...Read more

Related Article: Cost of Care Map