I have been receiving your newsletters for quite some time and I must say "Thank you."  I am often encouraged and enlightened by the stories and it is nice to know that what I go through is very normal when caring for an elderly parent. 

I have been taking care of my mom for several years.  She lives alone with my oldest brother who is mentally handicapped.  Mom recently fell and broke her shoulder.  She spent many weeks in a rehab facility and quickly deteriorated until they figured out one of the psychotropic meds she had taken for several years was toxic.  That was stopped and she was transferred to the Behavioral Health Center in an effort to get her stabilized on new psych meds. 

Mom is currently in the hospital and the social worker requested Elder Affairs (Cares) to assess her to see if she is a candidate for a nursing home.  The Department of Children and Families (DCF) in Florida said that she can transfer the home into my brother's name because he is a mentally challenged son and his disability would make him an eligible candidate to receive her home without causing her to be ineligible for Medicaid.

My question to you is, do you have any advice for dealing with the doctor on getting the meds right and their referring her to more rehab rather than a long-term nursing home? 
Also, do you know the facts surrounding Mom's home being put into her son's name.  He currently is on disability with Social Security.  Will he lose the home someday because of the disability income or could the home be put into a different sibling’s name eventually?  Or do you have anyone you could recommend I talk to about these issues?

Thank you for taking time to help if you can.

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