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 Tuesday November 02, 2010 - Issue #510

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From The Editor

Our Own Manifesto

In honor of Election Day today in these United States, I would like to talk with you about a most honored role to which we can often get elected (sometimes without getting a vote ourselves), drafted or volunteered: family caregiver.  My long-held contention is that once you become a family caregiver, you have taken on a job role equal to any other member of your loved one’s care team. Your role is as important (or even more so) than the therapist, nurse, care manager and, yes, even doctor.  But other than years of training and experience, there is one thing that each of these professionals has and that is a set of principles by which to live.  Social workers have a Code of Ethics, nurses have the Florence Nightingale Pledge, and doctors have the Hippocratic Oath. As these other members of the team have their codes of ethics and principles to live by as healthcare professionals, we family caregivers also need and deserve our own guiding set of principles, our own manifesto: The Fearless Caregiver Manifesto.

I’d like to share the ten principles of the Manifesto now:

• I will fearlessly assess my personal strengths and weaknesses, work diligently to bolster my weaknesses and to graciously recognize my strengths. ...continued

Take care

Gary Barg
Editor-in-Chief
gary@caregiver.com

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Feature Article
Cancer Therapy Nutrition
by Angela Medieros , Staff Writer The effects of cancer therapy can be draining on the body and spirit.  Side effects like diminished taste sensation and upset stomach affect one’s ability to enjoy food and stay nourished.  Dietary changes throw off physical and emotional balance.  With proper thought and safe experimentation, nutritional continuity can be enhanced...continued
Guest Column
Honoring Our Nation's Caregivers
By Kathy Greenlee Ten years ago, the National Family Caregiver Support Program (NFCSP) was created to help our nation create systems of support for family members caring for their loved ones. In the development of the legislation, then-Assistant Secretary for Aging Jeanette Takamura heard from caregivers from across the nation who shared their personal experiences in caring for their loved ones at home and in the community for as long as possible...continued September/October Issue
Caretips
Diet and Nutrition Tips Make dining social. Elderly people often fail to eat well because they don't like to eat alone. Take notice of food content in their loved-one’s home. Keep their refrigerator well stocked and watch for and remove old or spoiled food in the fridge.  Serve finger foods or food that is already cut up. It’s easier for less dexterous hands...continued Share your tip, advice resource or observation. http://www.caregiver.com/sharing_wisdom/index.htm
Carenotes
I have a 25-year-old bipolar daughter and I need help.  These are my issues: 1. I am torn between working (which I need to do to sustain us) and not leaving her at home alone. 2. I am frequently subject to her rage attacks.  I have had to call the police on several occasions.  She perceives that I think thoughts about her that I do not.  I am not trying to be critical when talking to her; I am just trying to help her make better choices. Her tendency is to have a rage attack when she is upset about the failure (or perceived failure) with a boyfriend.  She has never been able to have a valid relationship with a man, but views this as a way to gain self-acceptance.  It is significant that my daughter's rage attacks are only directed at me as her primary caregiver, her older sister (who does not spend as much time with her), and perhaps a boyfriend—those she feels safe with. Outside of the home, she is like a mouse—very unassertive, quiet, and has difficulty trusting people enough to make friends. She spends a good deal of time on Facebook with people she barely knows or has never met. It is my belief that the "mania" in my daughter's bipolar is expressed through these rage attacks, not euphoria—although I guess there is an initial euphoria in beginning a relationship with a new man. 3. She says I am crazy because I overreact to her poor choices with men and in other areas of her life. 4. She processes any sort of negativity from others as a rejection and goes into a state of depression and self-hatred. 5. She refuses to do what I ask of her—routine chores, being on time—and I become angry, which only gives her an excuse not to do what I ask and state that I am "crazy" and overreacting. 6. I have tried all my life to help my daughter and wish to see her function in society as an independent individual. I don't know whether she is unable or unwilling to do this. I do not know to what extent my protective attitude toward my daughter is enabling her failure to become independent. 7. My daughter has been treated by psychiatrists and counselors for at least the last ten years and does take medication for her disorder. Both she and I are still having great difficulty. Please try to connect me with others who are dealing with the same illness so that I can better help my daughter. SH. Answer This Week's CareNote
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Inside This Issue:

From the Editor

Our Own Manifesto

Feature Article

Cancer Therapy Nutrition
Guest Column

Honorig Our Nation's Caregivers

Caretips
Carenotes

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