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My Mom is 94 and a
miserably unhappy person.
She lives alone; hasn't made
a friend in years. She is
lonely (has a part-time
caregiver, as well as me,
her only child). She
has macular degeneration and
is hard of hearing. She says
she is sick, but won't
follow the doctor's
directions or take her pills
half the time.
I love the holidays, she
hates them. I try my
best to please her, but it
is never enough. I am
almost 72; I try to keep
active. I also have
RA, osteoarthritis and
fibromyalgia. I have
tried to explain that her
anger hurts me physically.
Last week, I took her
to the doctor ("They never
do anything") and then to a
beautiful nursery. It
was a wonderful afternoon.
The next day, she was in a
dark mood and said that I
was sullen and who knows
what else. I waited a
few days, then called and
asked her to dinner. After
saying “No,” she said she
thought I should apologize.
I did and then asked her if
she wanted to apologize; she
hung up on me.
I
haven't spoken to her since.
I feel guilty; I hurt all
over. I try not to
think about it.......but it
doesn't really work. I
am venting to you because my
husband and friends are
tired of hearing about it.
Does she have the
right to make my life
miserable?
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