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What to about Mom or Dad?
Find the Expertise You Need in a Professional Geriatric
Care Manager
You are managing your time pretty
well—things are tight and there are activities you would
like to add to your schedule, like a yoga class or a new
hobby, but you just can’t juggle one more thing.
But then something happens that is about to add a huge
responsibility to your already overloaded schedule –
there is a crisis with your elderly parent or relative.
The crisis might involve your mom or dad falling and
breaking a hip, rear-ending another driver, getting
pneumonia, or wandering away and, this time, can’t find
their way back home.
How do you find the time to add one more thing to a
schedule that is already full? How do you take time away
from your job or taking care of your own children? You
are determined to take care of your parent the same way
that they took care of you, but how? Feeling
overwhelmed, or giving into a meltdown, is not the only
alternative.
Don’t get frustrated; get help to deal with this new
complex situation. With more than 80 percent of elder
care (an average 71 hours a week) provided by family
members, an emerging field of geriatric experts known as
professional care managers have sprung up to help.
A Professional Perspective
When faced with helping your aging parents make
decisions about their future, making sense of the
information and wading through the options can be
frustrating. Getting an outside perspective from a
geriatric care manager can help assess your parent’s
needs, identify things you may not have considered and
create a care plan with possible options and
recommendations.
As specialists with extensive education and experience
in elder care, geriatric care managers are skilled at
assessing the level of help seniors need, changes that
should be implemented now or in the future, and
scheduling needed care services. Care managers can also
identify helpful community resources, monitor needs and
be an ongoing source of information.
Sidestep Complicated Family Dynamics
If you’re finding it a frustrating task to talk to your
parent about closing off the upstairs of their home to
prevent falls, installing bath safety equipment, giving
up the car keys, or wearing an ID bracelet for those
walks around the block, you’re not alone. Elderly
parents often find it humiliating to transition to
receiving advice, direction or physical care from their
own children. But in the same arena, a professional
outsider can step up to the plate and do it with
panache.
A professional starts with a level playing field that
creates a feeling of equality for the elderly. Your
parent may feel more comfortable speaking of sensitive
areas with someone outside of family dynamics. At the
very least, the elderly are more likely to accept
suggestions from a third party with a listening ear. To
your benefit, the geriatric care manager will present a
view to your parent that is unbiased by your personal
stress, emotionally-charged worry, and any unconscious
agendas.
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